Living with an alcoholic is far from what girls dream of when they fantasize about their wedding day. It is hard to imagine someone willingly wanting to live "happily ever after" with an alcohol addict, endure his aggression or grievances about life, clean up after him, care for him, feel disgust and shame at his behavior. in front of neighbors, colleagues, friends and relatives. Unsurprisingly, an alcoholic's marriage falls apart if nothing can make him overcome his desire to drink. There are, however, courageous women who fight to the last for their family, applying a series of measures to the drunkard, the purpose of which is the same - so that the husband does not drink, in order to discourage him from spoiling hislife (both his own and his relatives) with an addiction to intoxicated drinks.
Constructive dialogue
The first thing to do is try to persuade him. If the desire to drink is associated with problems outside the family - with work, career, friends and if alcoholism has not gone too far, it can easily stop, after meeting the support of relatives.
A constructive dialogue should only be started after careful preparation and taking into account some rules:
- you cannot talk to a person until he returns to a proper state and becomes able to understand reasonable arguments;
- you shouldn't try to persuade an alcoholic while he is experiencing the "pleasures" of a hangover;
- it is undesirable to try to cause pity or, on the contrary, to make scandals for a person who drinks (even in a sober state), very often it is attention that is needed;
- you can threaten a drunkard, but it is important to prepare for the execution of this threat;
- Before starting a conversation, it is advisable to seek advice from a narcologist so that an alcoholic, if he has such a desire, can immediately go to the clinic for treatment.
If the wife can prove to her husband that she drinks the need for help, convince him to at least try to change his life, this man will have a chance. This can also be helped by drawing up a so-called "motivation list". You can work together to find a number of reasons why getting rid of alcoholism will not only be easy, but useful as well. For example:
- to earn the respect of your children;
- to save money on a major purchase or vacation trip for a month;
- to start learning something new instead of getting drunk or starting to build a career.
The reasons for each person can be individual. You can motivate for the sake of a hobby, for example, playing sports or fiddling with a car in the garage, the important thing is that he devotes all his free time to this and does not drink or is not in bad company. You may need the help of a psychotherapist.
When persuasion goes unanswered
Conversations, convictions, supplications: in most cases this is not enough to awaken the consciousness.
It is very rarely possible to prove to the drinker that her lifestyle is destructive, because even if she believes it, her own strength to fight alcohol addiction may not be enough. Instead, the best remedy is traditional drugs and folk remedies.
Industrial pharmacology drugs are designed to create a feeling of rejection of alcohol in a person who drinks, they can cause aversion to drinking, its appearance, taste and smell. It is enough to mix a drug similar to an alcoholic, add it to food or add it to a drink, and if he has also drunk vodka or even beer, he will immediately feel sick. Drugs with such an effect contain an active substance (or disulfiram or cyanamide), which interferes with the normal processing process of ethyl alcohol, causes the accumulation of metabolic products in the blood and, as a result, persistent symptoms of intoxication and hangover. And a person who has fallen ill at least once after alcohol poisoning will have an aversion to alcohol for a long time. If you add a similar drug (Esperal tablets, Kolme drops and their analogues) to a drunkard, you can make him think twice before taking another dose of alcohol.
Once the drugs start working, another attempt can be made to persuade the alcoholic to undergo treatment by describing the benefits of treatment in a drug treatment clinic:
- constant monitoring of the state of health;
- psychological support, particularly important for the prevention of relapses;
- qualified assistance for the restoration of internal organs damaged by the abuse of ethyl alcohol.
Treatment in the hospital under the supervision of a narcologist is the best anti-alcohol therapy, which practically does not fail.
Alternative medicine against binge drinking is even more ingenious about how to get sick people to stop drinking. Folk methods suggest preparing decoctions and infusions that act similarly to official medicines, speak of completely original remedies:
- green insects - you can throw 4 insects in a glass of alcohol to cause an unpleasant smell and taste, and therefore aversion to alcohol itself;
- pepper - you can convince a person to stop drinking with the help of a tincture (3 drops per 1 liter of alcohol), which is created from hot red pepper (chopped, 20 gr. ), filled with alcohol (500ml) and infused for two weeks;
- birch smoke: you can ask to breathe over the smoking birch trunks and then offer alcohol, after which you will develop a strong aversion to products containing alcohol.
It is important to understand that treatment without the supervision of a specialist, even with traditional, albeit popular methods, must be carried out with extreme caution, otherwise a person may have not only an aversion to drinking and a desire not to drink anymore, buteven serious health problems.
The final stage of the fight
When all methods of struggle are exhausted, there is only one last resort: to threaten her husband to separate if she does not stop drinking. At the same time, it is important for a drunkard's wife:
- be ready to execute your threat without more warnings (1-2 times will be enough);
- to leave her husband in earnest, not arouse pity and make him beg for forgiveness
- do not believe in promises, vows and tears;
- get to work quickly and quickly: if the accommodation belongs to the husband who drinks, you have to take your things out in his absence and leave with your children for a while;
- don't come back from the drunk until he actually proves that he has begun to be cured.
You shouldn't go back to your alcoholic husband if the situation with the departure and return does not arise for the first time: sooner or later he will realize that his wife cannot actually leave him, no matter how drunk he is.
Get rid of alcohol at home, don't allow drinking to occupy a significant place in the party, to "chase" unreliable friends from home. . . All of this is much easier than later "poisoning" one's spouse by means that cause aversion to ethyl alcohol. A positive example is a good reason to give so that no one in the family drinks.